Childhood Anger

I’ve written a list of reasons why it's essential to acknowledge and feel the childlike (from childhood) anger towards our parents as adults:

1. Unprocessed Emotions Stay Stuck.

As children, we often suppress anger toward our parents to maintain attachment and survival. These emotions don't disappear; they become stored in our bodies and influence our behaviors and relationships. Feeling and processing this anger now allows us to release what’s been buried, creating space for emotional growth and better relationships.

2. The Child’s Anger Is Valid

Anger is a natural response to unmet needs or perceived injustices, most adult anger is the manifestation from the child you. Acknowledging this validates the child's experience, helping to heal the wounded inner child.

This doesn't mean blaming parents endlessly but honoring the feelings that were once silenced.

3. Reclaiming Authenticity

Suppressed anger often leads to people-pleasing, perfectionism, or over-responsibility in adulthood. Feeling the anger helps us reclaim our right to go after what we want, express needs without expectations, and live authentically.

4. Breaking Generational Cycles

By addressing our childlike anger, we avoid unconsciously passing it on to our children or projecting it onto others.

It interrupts harmful patterns, fostering healthier relationships and emotional resilience in future generations.

5. Integrating the Inner Child

Healing involves embracing all parts of ourselves, including the child who felt hurt, abandoned, or misunderstood.

This integration helps us feel whole and more connected to our emotions, creativity, and joy.

6. Transforming Relationships with Parents

Feeling and processing the anger doesn’t mean cutting off from parents; if healthily expressed without the temptation to receive anything from them in return, it can often lead to a healthier, more realistic understanding of them. It allows us to see them as flawed humans, not idols or villains, fostering forgiveness or acceptance.

7. Physical and Emotional Well-being

Suppressed anger can manifest as anxiety, depression, or physical ailments. Acknowledging it helps reduce these burdens and supports overall well-being.

8. Accessing Childlike Joy and Freedom

By addressing the shadow side of our childhood, we free ourselves to reconnect with the light—the spontaneity, curiosity, and wonder of our inner child. Feeling anger creates emotional balance, allowing for deeper joy.

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